Looking to spice up your social life with some fresh faces? Want to find more people who share your passions? Or maybe you’re just searching for new “playmates” to enjoy all the good stuff life has to offer? Whatever your goal, expanding your social circle after 60 is not only possible—it’s incredibly rewarding.

I know the challenge firsthand. When I moved to a new city where I didn’t know a soul, I had to master the fine art of meeting new people—fast. Let me tell you, building a social circle at this stage of life is an adventure all its own, but it’s also empowering and fun. Here’s how to make it happen.

1. Set Realistic Expectations

First things first: adjust your mindset. You might not meet your next bestie right away (or at all). Instead, focus on creating a variety of relationships that bring joy and enhance your life—even if they’re occasional or casual.

For example, I know someone who bonded with her neighbor over a shared love of theater. Each year, they get season tickets, enjoy dinner and a show once a month, and that’s the extent of their friendship. It works beautifully!

Not every connection needs to be deep. Casual friendships can be lovely, fun, and exactly what you need.

2. Go Out Solo

This might sound counterintuitive, but hear me out: going solo makes you more approachable. Without the distraction of friends or family, you’re more open to new connections. Plus, people are more likely to strike up a conversation when they see you’re alone.

Still nervous? Trust me—it gets easier the more you do it. Start small with low-pressure outings like visiting a cozy café or attending a public lecture.

3. Don’t Be Afraid to Make the First Move

Most people are just as eager for connection as you are—they’re just waiting for someone to make the first move. That someone can be you.

Easy Icebreakers:

Compliment them: “I love your scarf! Where did you get it?”
Ask an open-ended question: “What do you enjoy most about this group?”
Share something about yourself: “This is my first time here—how about you?”

If you hit it off, take it a step further: “I really enjoyed chatting. Would you like to grab a coffee sometime?”

4. Put the Word Out

Your current network might surprise you. Let friends, family, or even casual acquaintances know you’re looking to meet new people. I once had a neighbor I barely knew invite me to cocktails with her and a friend of a friend. That stranger is now one of my dearest friends.

Sometimes, connections come from the most unexpected places—so don’t hesitate to share your intentions.

5. Follow Your Passions

Take a class! Yes, I know—you’ve probably heard this one a million times. It actually triggers me when people say that to me! But I did it. Italian class and because I love swing dancing, I took classes for many years. In full transparency, I didn’t meet a soul but I had a blast.

Pursuing your interests at least puts you around like-minded people.. Even if you don’t meet anyone, you’ll still gain new skills and experiences.

6. Leverage TechnologyHere are some digital tools to help you connect:

Meetup.com: Find events and activities tailored to your interests.
Facebook Groups: Many neighborhoods have active groups for local events or hobbies.
Bumble BFF: Designed specifically for making friends.

I’ve personally joined local Facebook groups and attended meetups, and they’ve been great for expanding my social network.

**7. Make Socializing a Routine**
Building relationships takes consistency. Make a habit of attending events or gatherings regularly.
Host monthly gatherings like book clubs, wine tastings, or game nights.
Set a goal to attend one social event per week—it could be a class, meetup, or even a solo night out.
The more you show up, the more connections you’ll make.

8. Check Your Conversation Skills

Let’s face it—COVID left many of us a little rusty when it comes to socializing. Brush up on your conversation skills by practicing active listening, asking thoughtful questions, and sharing stories.

9. Be Open to All Ages

Some of my closest connections in NYC are younger friends I’ve met through my friends’ kids. Intergenerational friendships can be incredibly enriching. Younger friends bring fresh perspectives and energy, while older ones offer wisdom and depth. Don’t limit yourself to just one age group—friendship knows no age.

10. Practice Patience and Positivity

Not every interaction will lead to a lasting connection, and that’s okay. Building a social circle takes time. Stay patient, embrace the process, and focus on enjoying the journey. Quality always trumps quantity when it comes to friendships.

11. Celebrate Your Individuality

The best part about getting older? You know exactly who you are. Use this confidence to attract people who align with your values and interests. Let your unique personality shine—it’s the magnet for the right people.

Final Thoughts

Building a new social circle after 60 isn’t about replacing the relationships you’ve had; it’s about enriching your life with new connections. Whether it’s through solo outings, shared passions, or digital tools, there’s no shortage of opportunities to meet people who will add joy and meaning to your life.

So, what’s stopping you? Get out there, be bold, and find your tribe—it’s never too late!

Best Ways to Build a New Social Circle After 60